A getting real moment (LONG POST WARNING 😳)
I read this quote and it hit hard -as long as I can remember I had this fear. This fear of worrying of what people thought of me…I remember as far back as elementary school! The fear of others laughing at me if I mess up in whatever it was I was doing or thinking less of me than what I actually was…this led all the way to and through high school and having moments of being ‘bullied’.
I used to let what others said and thought about me alter my own self image and at times change who I really was and the choices I made. SERIOUSLY WHERE AND WHY did this happen?! Society puts out such a strict expectation to fit in with ‘the crowd’-and not be otherwise–so whatever category the crowd calls them -the ‘dorks’, the ‘nerds’, the ‘athletes’, the ‘losers’, the ‘hotties’, the ‘whatever’s’….We all want to fit in and be accepted. BUT GEESH I WISH I only learned then what I really truly KNOW and BELIEVE now.
The ONLY person that truly matters to YOURSELF in this world is YOU! If YOU aren’t happy with yourself –> EVERYONE else’s perception, everyone else’s opinion, what everyone else thinks or says will rule your mind <– and you’ll never be a true YOU!
IT ISN’T EASY! That’s a fact! People are MEAN! Everyone has a sense of entitlement that leaves others feeling ‘less worthy’ or just ‘not as good’.
I learned the hard way AND WAY LATER than I should have (even though I remember hearing it said to me when I was younger) BUT JACK AND JILLS thoughts of YOU really DO NOT matter!!
It wasn’t until I build my self-confidence and found what/who REALLY mattered in my circle of life that this become understandable and easier! So here’s my helpful tip to you:
Here’s how you know if you’re letting someone else control your actions. Ask yourself. ‘If I don’t do (blank) because I’m afraid of what they will think of me -WHO is losing out!? WHO is being affected the most?
If you answer ‘Me, Myself & I’ WELL there you go…so SURE now you have a choice -let what they think behind that computer screen or behind their mouth and words- make you lose out of opportunities, choices, actions, that make YOU HAPPY or feel confident and proud of yourself.
So I’ll say it again and how I see it now. I DON’T LET what so & so thinks about me, me and my posts, my job, my life STOP me from doing that ‘thing’ that fills my heart, mind, & body with that feel good feeling!
SOOO Obstacle OVERCOME!! Once you can release that weight off your shoulders you will feel a sense of freedom about yourself!
JUST THINK–>THOSE who mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind!