Those who mind don’t matter…

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A getting real moment (LONG POST WARNING 😳)
I read this quote and it hit hard -as long as I can remember I had this fear. This fear of worrying of what people thought of me…I remember as far back as elementary school! The fear of others laughing at me if I mess up in whatever it was I was doing or thinking less of me than what I actually was…this led all the way to and through high school and having moments of being ‘bullied’.

I used to let what others said and thought about me alter my own self image and at times change who I really was and the choices I made. SERIOUSLY WHERE AND WHY did this happen?! Society puts out such a strict expectation to fit in with ‘the crowd’-and not be otherwise–so whatever category the crowd calls them -the ‘dorks’, the ‘nerds’, the ‘athletes’, the ‘losers’, the ‘hotties’, the ‘whatever’s’….We all want to fit in and be accepted. BUT GEESH I WISH I only learned then what I really truly KNOW and BELIEVE now. 

The ONLY person that truly matters to YOURSELF in this world is YOU! If YOU aren’t happy with yourself –> EVERYONE else’s perception, everyone else’s opinion, what everyone else thinks or says will rule your mind <– and you’ll never be a true YOU! 

IT ISN’T EASY! That’s a fact! People are MEAN! Everyone has a sense of entitlement that leaves others feeling ‘less worthy’ or just ‘not as good’. 

I learned the hard way AND WAY LATER than I should have (even though I remember hearing it said to me when I was younger) BUT JACK AND JILLS thoughts of YOU really DO NOT matter!! 

It wasn’t until I build my self-confidence and found what/who REALLY mattered in my circle of life that this become understandable and easier! So here’s my helpful tip to you:

Here’s how you know if you’re letting someone else control your actions. Ask yourself. ‘If I don’t do (blank) because I’m afraid of what they will think of me -WHO is losing out!? WHO is being affected the most? 

If you answer ‘Me, Myself & I’ WELL there you go…so SURE now you have a choice -let what they think behind that computer screen or behind their mouth and words- make you lose out of opportunities, choices, actions, that make YOU HAPPY or feel confident and proud of yourself. 

So I’ll say it again and how I see it now. I DON’T LET what so & so thinks about me, me and my posts, my job, my life STOP me from doing that ‘thing’ that fills my heart, mind, & body with that feel good feeling!

SOOO Obstacle OVERCOME!! Once you can release that weight off your shoulders you will feel a sense of freedom about yourself!

JUST THINK–>THOSE who mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind! 

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I am 35 yrs. old -a Wife and Mother to a Beautiful Boy and my Rainbow Baby Girl. I am a dance and fitness instructor. I own a fitness studio where I offer a variety of fitness classes in the evenings. I recently have become a FULL TIME Fitness Coach after 3+ years of working as a Day Care Assistant after having my Son and leaving my Emotionally Taxing Case Management Position. Fitness is my passion! I love to work out on my own AND with others! Throughout my both of my pregnancies I continued to work out on my own and with Beachbody programs, live my dream of being a work from home mom (for most of the day), and teach at my studio (and other locations) in the evening. After the birth of my son I have worked hard to get my pre-preg. body back. Shaun T's T25 was initial program and then Tony's P90X3 BOTH which I loved the short affective times because with having a newborn baby that was EXACTLY what I needed. I know and understand the self discipline it takes to achieve your desired goals and I am still on that path and have my struggles as everyone else does! I love to offer my support to my clientele with group fitness classes I offer in my community and I feel we work as a team all together to HELP each other. I LOVE offering my support via the web too as I REACH other people that I can't physically see. IT IS AMAZINGLY rewarding and I can't imagine NOT doing what I do! Im currently on my postpartum journey once again and so GRATEFUL and BLESSED to live this healthy lifestyle, lead by example for my family, and support others on their journey too!

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