‘Haters gonna hate’- I’m proud of being an online health and fitness coach!! I’m proud and loud!! I post daily to keep me accountable and inspire others! Unfortunately there is the ugly side of the lifestyle choice I’ve made (gosh that sounds like I live an awful lifestyle 😝). 
I recently spoke with someone who had to defend their lifestyle choice. A lifestyle choice that has allowed her to feel more energy, more happiness, more experiences, and all around ALIVE. 
It honestly scares me to think that society has gotten so much more accustomed to judge people, point fingers at someone, that’s started making healthier choices, and call them ‘sick’. 
This post is about to get real-real for me BECAUSE I felt her pain–I could totally empathize with her–
So far in my experiences and self-education I’ve discovered, and agree with, that when people make hurtful comments (claiming that they only care BUT really they’re trying to make an intervention type discussion) what they’re ‘putting down’ is really their own desires and wishes –> but struggle with finding the strength, ambition, and motivation to make it true for them. We often get stuck in ‘how to respond in defense’. Often times the convo could be flipped around and the attention to them BUT usually we’re caught off guard we don’t think of it that way.  
If a person said something to you like ‘you are working out way to much’ HOW would they feel if you just immediately said ‘you are working out to little’. They don’t realize that quite often hurtful remarks are just the same to them in reverse. 
Haters will hate. They can knock us down but in the end we have to ask the question -does what that person thinks and says ‘ring true?’ Are they the ones in control of my body and my life? Are the choices I’m making now going to let me live longer, healthier, & happier? AND if I quit doing what I’m doing because of what this person said ARE THOSE choices going to make me live longer, healthier, happier?? AND Is what they’re saying possibly just their own insecurities and shame clouds raining down. 
So now I’ll hop off my soapbox and I hope this hits the hearts who have had this struggle before and feel more confident if there’s a next time around (unfortunately there probably will be one 🙄).