Haters gonna hate…

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‘Haters gonna hate’- I’m proud of being an online health and fitness coach!! I’m proud and loud!! I post daily to keep me accountable and inspire others! Unfortunately there is the ugly side of the lifestyle choice I’ve made (gosh that sounds like I live an awful lifestyle 😝). 
I recently spoke with someone who had to defend their lifestyle choice. A lifestyle choice that has allowed her to feel more energy, more happiness, more experiences, and all around ALIVE. 
It honestly scares me to think that society has gotten so much more accustomed to judge people, point fingers at someone, that’s started making healthier choices, and call them ‘sick’. 
This post is about to get real-real for me BECAUSE I felt her pain–I could totally empathize with her–
So far in my experiences and self-education I’ve discovered, and agree with, that when people make hurtful comments (claiming that they only care BUT really they’re trying to make an intervention type discussion) what they’re ‘putting down’ is really their own desires and wishes –> but struggle with finding the strength, ambition, and motivation to make it true for them. We often get stuck in ‘how to respond in defense’. Often times the convo could be flipped around and the attention to them BUT usually we’re caught off guard we don’t think of it that way.  
If a person said something to you like ‘you are working out way to much’ HOW would they feel if you just immediately said ‘you are working out to little’. They don’t realize that quite often hurtful remarks are just the same to them in reverse. 
Haters will hate. They can knock us down but in the end we have to ask the question -does what that person thinks and says ‘ring true?’ Are they the ones in control of my body and my life? Are the choices I’m making now going to let me live longer, healthier, & happier? AND if I quit doing what I’m doing because of what this person said ARE THOSE choices going to make me live longer, healthier, happier?? AND Is what they’re saying possibly just their own insecurities and shame clouds raining down. 
So now I’ll hop off my soapbox and I hope this hits the hearts who have had this struggle before and feel more confident if there’s a next time around (unfortunately there probably will be one 🙄).

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I am 35 yrs. old -a Wife and Mother to a Beautiful Boy and my Rainbow Baby Girl. I am a dance and fitness instructor. I own a fitness studio where I offer a variety of fitness classes in the evenings. I recently have become a FULL TIME Fitness Coach after 3+ years of working as a Day Care Assistant after having my Son and leaving my Emotionally Taxing Case Management Position. Fitness is my passion! I love to work out on my own AND with others! Throughout my both of my pregnancies I continued to work out on my own and with Beachbody programs, live my dream of being a work from home mom (for most of the day), and teach at my studio (and other locations) in the evening. After the birth of my son I have worked hard to get my pre-preg. body back. Shaun T's T25 was initial program and then Tony's P90X3 BOTH which I loved the short affective times because with having a newborn baby that was EXACTLY what I needed. I know and understand the self discipline it takes to achieve your desired goals and I am still on that path and have my struggles as everyone else does! I love to offer my support to my clientele with group fitness classes I offer in my community and I feel we work as a team all together to HELP each other. I LOVE offering my support via the web too as I REACH other people that I can't physically see. IT IS AMAZINGLY rewarding and I can't imagine NOT doing what I do! Im currently on my postpartum journey once again and so GRATEFUL and BLESSED to live this healthy lifestyle, lead by example for my family, and support others on their journey too!

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